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Every successful relationship is successful for the same exact reasons

what make every relationship successful?

How did you definition a relationship?

You probably will say ”The relationship between two people or groups is the way in which they feel and behave towards each other.” or you may say ” A relationship is a close friendship between two people, especially one involving romantic or sexual feelings.” No matter what kind of definition, there are so many way to definite it. However, today we will talk about the relationship of romantic.

I think an important point of a relationship is you need to get a balance on it and your life, which means you have to focus on your life purpose or your career when you get into a relationship. As like you won’t lose your life goals when you communicate with your friends. But lots of people will lost it when they get into a romantic relationship.

I saw a lot of girls always care too much about their boyfriend and can’t stop thinking why he didn’t reply my message after 3 hours etc, which sometimes they will lost their life of everything such as life purpose and dream. Because they just put all focus on their boyfriend.

I have to admit I was one of them. When I didn’t get the responds after few hours, I will keep thinking why he didn’t answer it and I will get angry about that. Actually I know why he didn’t reply it when he is on work. (because he was busy), on contrast, when he is not on work, I will start to over-thinking. On my perspective I just hope he can tell me what does he do now, if he is busy when I can totally understand. But when he not tell me anything, then I just follow the same disastrous road to ruin.

Well I believe you will ask me ”then why do you want to write this article? ” As I said on that, I am one of those girl who just focus on their boyfriends and now I know I have to back on my life and need to balance it. Thence I need to learn how to do and how can I balance it, which that’s why I writing this article to share with you guys if you want to do it too.

 

你會如何定義關係?

你可能會說「兩個人或群體之間的關係是他們彼此感覺和行為的方式。」或者您可能會說「關係是兩個人之間的親密友誼,尤其是涉及浪漫或性愛的人感覺。」無論定義什麼樣,都有很多方法可以定義它。但是,今天我們將討論浪漫的關係。

我認為一段關係的重要一點是,你需要在關係和生活上取得平衡,這意味著在建立關係時,你也必須專注於自己的人生目標或職業。就像你與朋友交流一樣,當你和朋友交流時,你並不會因此失去人生目標。但是,當很多人陷入戀愛關係時,他們會失去它。

我看到很多女孩總是對男友太在意,無法停止思考為什麼他在三小時等之後沒有回复我的信息,甚至有時她們會失去生命的一切,例如人生目標和夢想。因為他們只是把所有精力都放在了男朋友身上。

我必須承認我是其中之一。幾個小時後沒有收到回复時,我會一直在想為什麼他沒有回答,我對此會感到生氣。如果,他在工作時​​沒有回复,我可以理解因為他很忙的關係所以無法回覆。 相反,當他不在工作時,我會開始思考過多。以我的角度,我只是希望他能告訴我他現在正在做什麼,如果他在我完全理解的時候很忙。但是,當他什麼都沒告訴我時,我只會走同樣的災難性道路。

好吧,我相信您會問我“那您為什麼要寫這篇文章?就像我說的那樣,我是那些只關注他們的男朋友的女孩之一,現在我知道我必須重新生活並需要平衡自己的生活。因此,我需要學習如何做以及如何平衡它,這就是為什麼我寫這篇文章與大家分享的原因。

Falling in love Or Staying in love

First, let us talk about what different between falling in love and staying in love. Falling in love means thinking every damn thing they do is adorable, even if it’s as random as the way they sneeze or the way they hold a book, also, means treasuring every exciting new adventure you share together and the being thankful that they are sleeping safely beside you.

However, staying in love means learning how to get over all of the little things they do that absolutely drive you nuts, and loving them anyways and making a lot of difficult and selfless choices, because the happiness of the two of you as a team means so much more to you than your own individual desires.

They’re both wonderful, beautiful experiences, but it is not until you understand how and why they are different that you can truly appreciate what you have in front of you and how you can make it last.

首先,讓我們談談墜入愛河和保持戀愛之間的區別。 墜入愛河意味著即使他們打噴嚏或拿著書的方式隨意,也認為他們所做的每件事都是可愛的,也意味著珍惜與您共享的每一次激動人心的新冒險,並感謝他們正在睡覺、安全地在你身邊。

然而,保持戀愛意味著學習如何克服他們所做的所有小事情,假如這些事會讓您發瘋,無論如何都要愛他們,並做出許多困難和無私的選擇,因為你們兩個人作為一個團隊的幸福意味著 對你來說,遠遠超出你個人的期望。

它們都是美好而美好的經歷,但是直到了解它們的不同之處和原因,你才能真正欣賞自己面前的一切以及如何使之持久。

How did you think what makes a relationship health?

All romantic relationships go through ups and downs and they all take work, commitment, and a willingness to adapt and change with your partner. You’re a meaningful emotional connection with each other. There’s a difference between being loved and feeling loved. When’s a difference between being loved and feeling loved. When you feel loved, it makes you feel accepted and valued by your partner, like someone truly Gets you.

But whether your relationship is just starting out or you’ve been together for years, there are steps you can take To build a healthy relationship. Even if you’ve experienced a lot of failed relationships in the past or struggled before to rekindle the fires of romance in your current relationship, you can learn to stay connected, find fulfillment, and enjoy lasting happiness.

  1. Be together for the right reasons.

Don’t ever be with someone because someone else pressured you to. I think the only reason you should ever be with the person you’re with is because you simply love being around them. It really is that simple.

2. Spend quality time face to face

Commit to spending some quality time together on a regular basis. No matter how busy you are, take a few minutes each day to put aside your electronic devices, stop thinking about other things, and really focus on and connect with your partner.

Find something that you enjoy doing together, whether it is a shared hobby, dance class, daily walk, or sitting over a cup of coffee in the morning.

Try something new together. Doing new things together can be a fun way to connect and keep things interesting. It can be as simple as trying a new restaurant or going on a day trip to a place you’ve never been before.

Focus on having fun together. Couples are often more fun and playful in the early stages of a relationship. However, this playful attitude can sometimes be forgotten as life challenges start getting in the way or old resentments start building up. Keeping a sense of humor can actually help you get through tough times, reduce stress and work through issues more easily.

3.Stay connected through communication

Good communication is a fundamental part of a healthy relationship. When you experience a positive emotional connection with your partner, you feel safe and happy. When people stop communicating well, they stop relating well, and times of change or stress can really bring out the disconnect. It may sound simplistic, but as long as you are communicating, you can usually work through whatever problems you’re facing.

Tell your partner what you need, don’t make them guess.
If you’ve known each other for a while, you may assume that your partner has a pretty good idea of what you are thinking and what you need. However, your partner is not a mind-reader. While your partner may have some idea, it is much healthier to express your needs directly to avoid any confusion.

 4. Learn to give and take in your relationship
 
If you expect to get what you want 100% of the time in a relationship, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Healthy relationships are built on compromise. However, it takes work on each person’s part to make sure that there is a reasonable exchange. Therefore you need to learn how to giving love and taking love from your partner.
 

所有浪漫的關係都會經歷風風雨雨,並且都需要工作,投入和你的伴侶適應和改變的意願。你們是彼此之間有意義的情感聯繫。被愛與被愛之間是有區別的,那有什麼區別?當你感到被愛時,它會讓你感到被伴侶所接受和重視,就像真正獲得你的人一樣。

但是,無論你的關係是否剛剛開始還是已經在一起多年,你都可以採取一些方法來建立健康的關係。即使你過去經歷過很多失敗的人際關係,或者在重新燃起當前關係中的浪漫之火之前都經歷過艱難的掙扎,您仍可以學習保持聯繫,找到滿足感並享受持久的幸福。

1.出於正確的理由在一起。

不要因為其他人向您施加了壓力而讓你和他在一起。我認為您應該與相處的人在一起的唯一原因是因為您只是喜歡和他們在一起。真的就是這麼簡單。

2.花時間面對面交流

致力於定期度過一段美好的時光。無論有多忙,每天都要花幾分鐘時間擱置你的電子設備,別再思考其他事情,並真正專注於與你的伴侶建立聯繫。

找到你喜歡一起做的事情,無論是共享的興趣愛好,舞蹈課,日常散步還是早上坐在咖啡旁。

一起嘗試新事物。一起做新事物可能是一種有趣的連接方式並使事物保持有趣狀態。只需嘗試開一家新餐廳或去一個從未有過的地方一日遊,就可以輕鬆完成。

專注於一起玩樂。在戀愛初期,通常會更有趣和好玩。但是,有時隨著生活挑戰的開始或舊怨氣的累積,這種頑皮的態度可能會被忘記。保持幽默感實際上可以幫助您度過難關,減輕壓力並更輕鬆地解決問題。

3.通過溝通保持聯繫

良好的溝通是健康關係的基本組成部分。當與伴侶之間建立積極的情感聯繫時,你會感到安全和快樂。當人們停止良好的溝通時,他們就會停止良好的聯繫,而變化或壓力的時刻確實可以帶出脫節。這聽起來可能很簡單,但是只要您進行交流,通常就可以解決遇到的任何問題。

告訴你的伴侶你需要什麼,不要讓他們猜測。
如果彼此認識已有一段時間,你可能會認為你的伴侶對你的想法很了解。但是,他並不是讀心者。儘管他可能有一些想法,但是如果你直接表達你的需求以避免任何問題。

4.學會給予和接受你的關係


如果你希望在一段戀愛關係中100%地得到自己想要的東西,那麼你決對會失望。健康的關係是建立在妥協之上的。但是,這需要每個人的工作來確保進行合理的交流。因此,你需要學習如何給予愛,以及如何從伴侶中得到愛。

Actually we have a lot of things need to learn from a relationship, not just those what I said. But I believe if you can do a good balance of all of it, then I think you guys can holding each other’s hand forever. No matter what happened and you guys will get through it together.

實際上,我們需要從戀愛中學習很多東西,不僅僅是上面我所說的那些。 但是我相信,如果您能在所有方面取得良好的平衡,那麼我認為你們可以永遠握住彼此的手。 不管發生了什麼,你們都會一起經歷。

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